Our Children

March 14, 2007 | 5 Comments

Saying our children, gives the impression that they are kids! Our's are not kids anymore, Thank God for that! They are all grown-up and working in UK and New Zealand. Rock is very very happy to have her children round her for the recent Chinese New Year Celebrations. These pictures were taken in Putra and Cyberjaya, our local Multi-Super Corridor for High-Tech Content Companies.

The place is just beautiful and the first thing that strikes me is the cleanliness and many open spaces. Post these pictures here for you, friends and relatives overseas and especially for our darling daughter in Wellington. Hey all of you can see how is Rock doing! The smile on her face says it all.

We have very good friends locally as well as overseas. They are a joyful, caring lot and it is such a blessing to have friends like that. It is always laughter and joyous chatting with them round dinner tables or barbecue-pits. So hi! everyone, Rock is doing great and let Jay tells you about what it is like to celebrate the New Year at home. Bye! and see ya sometime wherever you are!

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For Having Backbone.

March 13, 2007 | 2 Comments

Speak-up to defend a stand regardless of who is making that statement that you do not agree, will be the fourth and final small defining moment that I can think of.

I remembered this incident where I was a visitor to this company in Singapore and the boss took me and two of his staff members out for lunch. Somehow the conversation turned to Religion and the boss made a statement that people of this Religion were selfish people. He was directing his statement towards the senior manager and to my amazement, this senior manager agreed with the boss without so much as a second thought!

However, the other staff member who was a meek, mild guy spoke-up disagreeing with what his boss said. Who do you think impressed me most? It showed me that this mild guy had backbone and my respect for him soared. Perhaps the boss himself would be impressed too for now he knew this guy had it in him to speak his mind contradicting all the yes men!

So if and when someone said something negative about another friend, if we know otherwise, we must speak-up in that person's defense. Cultivating such a virtue will placed us in a respectable position with friends. what do you think?

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On Speaking-up

March 12, 2007 | 3 Comments

Want to ask you a question regarding friends. How do you consider someone a “good friend”? I am sure we do categorize our circle of friends as casual, acquaintances or close friends where we share confidences or secrets!

Not sure about your criteria for the above classifications but as for us, we would consider someone a good friend if he or she dares to confront us about our mistakes or bad choices in life issues! I know that not many do that simply because they are afraid of being wrong, do not want to interfere or simply just do not care! None of these reasons strikes me as being particularly admirable.

We would appreciate someone who dares to risk our relationship to confront us if he or she sees that we are heading towards a potentially disastrous path. We would consider such a person a “good friend”. Of course there are many ways to approach someone who you care about and share your opinions regarding certain choices he made without appearing being nosey. I am sure that he will appreciate your genuine concern and hence strengthening the relationship.

I would say this is the third small defining moments in our lives where we can establish a strong healthy relationship.

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Keeping A Confident

March 12, 2007 | Leave a Comment

The second small defining moment that I think of is the issue of being able to keep a confidence. Friends have become bitter enemies over this one. Personally I defaulted in this and to this day I will remember the lesson. How one deals with secrets is a good test of character and a virtue to have for bonding in relationships.

It was about someone telling me her secret and in a moment of carelessness, I shared it with someone else! When she found out, she was mad at me and all my apologies would not bring the relationship to before when I was trusted. Although we remain friends but I noticed that she no longer confide in me anymore. So if you want to break a relationship, break a confidence, or be a gossip or just plain indiscreet, a sure way to dent relationships.

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