The Walk of Life

Is the above mentioned true? If you read what was reported, you will be astounded by such things. In my wildest imagination I could not believe that such things are happening in our beloved neighbor nation of Singapore. Perhaps these were isolated cases but still astounding in a modern, technologically advance and affluent Singapore. What is happening to Singapore men?

Just read some of the quotes mentioned there.

"Singapore Thomson Medical Centre (TMC) founder Dr Cheng Wei Chen said the hospital received several people every month, mostly university graduates, seeking their guidance on how to “do it”."

"Its urology senior consultant Dr Lin Fa Cai said he once treated a woman who was married for 10 years and supposedly had sex more than 1,000 times, but was still a virgin."

Maybe the Singapore men are all too busy learning skills to make money, career advancement, keeping up with the K-Generation and what you have but neglecting to learn how to live! In Japan it was a slightly different scenario. The lonely Japanese wives are looking for "lover-boys" from "love-bars" ending in "love-hotels"! This was related to me by a blogger friend who lives in Japan. Problem arises because of the busy life-styles of Japanese men chasing the golden dream or is it the work culture there? I liken it to 'Gaining the whole world' but 'Losing your family'.

Finally, my pal Endoh ( from Singapore) opened a can of worms in his latest post about "virginity"! From the reader's comments some look like 'virgin adult males! Endo also questions about introducing Sex Education into Singapore Schools at too early an age! By the look of things, maybe Endo is right! Start it at University level in case they have all forgotten what they learned in primary schools! In case you haven't noticed, most of the ignorance was found in Men! Waah! Maybe Singapore Women are more well keeled in such matters! Now I wonder..............

Many of us bloggers spend quite a bit of time in front of our computers. Can you tell whether your computer is Male or Female? Of course there are no physical attributes to tell the difference but more of observing the computer's behavorial patterns to determine the gender. Most men think their computers are Female and most women think that their computers are Male. There are valid persuasive arguments on both sides so lets see how they come to their conclusions.

The Ladies :

• They have lots of data but are still clueless.
• They are suppose to help you solve problems, but half the time they are the problem.
• As soon as you commit to one you realize that, if you had waited a little longer, you could have obtained a better model.
• In order to get their attention, you have to turn them on.
• Big power surges knock them out for the rest of the day.

The Gentlemen :

• No one but the Creator understand their internal logic.
• The native language they communicate with other computers is incomprehensible to everyone else.
• The message 'Bad command or file name' is about as informative as 'If you don't know why I'm mad at you, then I'm not going to tell you.'
• Even the smallest mistakes are stored in long-term memory for later retrieval.
• As soon as you make a commitment to one, you find yourself spending half your pay cheque on accessories for it.

Do anyone of you, male or female, have additional things to add?

A buddy of mine, sent me an article on The Power of Gratitude and it was a very good read indeed. Since I was disconnected from the internet for about a week, I did some reflecting on what I have learned from that article. Then maezy another good friend, sent me something on appreciating your friends which was really an eye-opener and would like to share that here.

Friends generally come in three categories. Some come into your life for a Lifetime, some for a Season and they disappear, some just drop-in for a Reason.

I remembered missing a very good friend (PC) and spiritual mentor and when he migrated to Canada, initially I felt betrayed, a bit of anger and disappointment then. Do you have a similar experience? The saying that it is hard to say good-bye is so true.

Through the years as I matured emotionally, I begin to understand, these three categories and it was liberating to say the least. I realized now that if we understand which category our friends come under, it will grant us the understanding on how to relate to them and enjoy our relationship to the fullest. Our good-byes will be sweet, unforgettable and fills our hearts with such gratitude for the friendship.

Those that come into your life and stay for a lifetime are usually the ones we grew up with right from primary school to college. They are there whether it rains or shines and they are there at your wedding, anniversaries etc. They are your continuous source of encouragement, enjoyment and till death do us part sort of friends.

Then there are those who come into your life for a season, where now it is your turn to share, to grow with or learn. They bring you an experience of tranquility or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy and happiness. But they are there only for a season.

I am sure many of you do have friends who just come into your life for a reason. Be it some sort of ‘angel-like’ person who was with you through a difficult patch in your life, giving you support, guidance, a sweet and warm friendship. Then suddenly they disappear either due to circumstances, relocation, migration etc and that’s the end of that relationship apart from the occasional emails or letters, like PC. What we must realize is that our need has been met and their role completed and now it is time to move on.

All these three categories of relationships are the building blocks of a solid emotional foundation. I believe that it is our unction to accept the lessons, appreciate and be grateful for that person’s impact in our lives and propagate this friendship to all those who come into our lives afterwards.

Lastly, I must mentioned another category of friends who are like “spirits” for they suddenly come into your life, into the privacy of your own room. You may never meet them physically the rest of your days. They are the Bloggers! I was so touched by one who, even on holiday remembered me and a few others, ‘carved’ my name with corals under the clear waters of the sea! Such are the simple pleasures and joy of friendships that come into our lives.

All that I can say, with gratitude is “Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.”