Ringing in the Ears

August 28, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Tinnitus can be perceived in one or both ears or in the head. It is usually described as a ringing noise, but in some patients it takes the form of a high pitched whining, buzzing, hissing, humming, or whistling sound, or as ticking, clicking, roaring, “crickets” or “tree frogs” or “locusts“, tunes, songs, or beeping. It has also been described as a “whooshing” sound, as of wind or waves. Tinnitus can be intermittent or it can be continuous. In the latter case, this “phantom” sound can create great distress in the sufferer.

Tinnitus is not itself a disease but a symptom resulting from a range of underlying causes. Causes include ear infections, foreign objects or wax in the ear, nose allergies that prevent (or induce) fluid drain and cause wax build-up, and injury from loud noises. Tinnitus is also a side-effect of some oral medications, such as aspirin, and may also result from an abnormally low level of serotonin activity. It is also a classical side effect of Quinidine, a Class IA anti-arrhythmic. In many cases, however, no underlying physical cause can be identified.

For more details check it out on Wiki. Well, I also found out that there is this product made in the US called ‘Tinni- Fix’ which sounded quite good! This is not a sponsored post or any promotion for this product but just providing some information, hoping that others can learn about ‘ringing in the ears’!

The New MERDEKA!

August 27, 2008 | Leave a Comment

August 26^th 2008 is another Milestone in our Malaysian History. Anwar Ibrahim won the Permatang Pauh By-Election by a thumping majority of 15,671 votes! It is a strong signal from the people of Permatang Pauh to Barisan, shouting that they want change in the Malaysian Political Scene. To me this coming Merdeka Celebration is a refreshing one. I feel that Merdeka has a totally new meaning now as compared to the past celebrations except perhaps the first Merdeka Declaration and the immediate few celebrations that follows, but it was a long long time that I feel so Malaysian.

For a long, long time the Merdeka Celebration was ‘dead’ in spirit I mean! There was no real joy, no real sense of belonging and worst, a sense of ‘rejection’ by my own Government who keep telling me that as a Chinese or Indian or Others we have little or no rights! With this back-drop how do you expect us ordinary citizens to love you with all our heart, all our strength, all our might? My Government treats me like a step son or if not a ‘bastard’!

Lately I have been reading about certain BN MP’s saying that they regretted giving citizenships to the Chinese, Indians and Others because now we vote for the Opposition! They went further to imply that perhaps better to revoke their citizenships! Well let’s take a look at Permatang Pauh By-election results.

If I am not mistaken the racial composition of Permatang Pauh is 69% Malays; 25% Chinese and 6% Indians and Others. Based on the eligible voters list, a total of 47,258 eligible voters and assuming all the Chinese and Indians and Others vote for PKR it gives a number of 14,511 votes. With PKR having 31,195 votes, less the Non-Malays votes of 14,511 we arrive at a figure of 32,727 votes coming from the Malays in Permatang Pauh! Amazing!! Hey! How about revoking the citizenships of these 32,727 Malays as well for they too vote for the Opposition! Or is it a case of Special Rights again? Only Malays have the right to vote for the Opposition? BN has deteriorated to the extent that we non-bumi citizens are threatened with loosing our basic human rights of voting! We cannot vote the opposition, we cannot question, we cannot ask why, blah, blah, blah and perhaps now you can understand why we all, Malay, Chinese, Indians and Others desire change more than money, food or life! Let’s vote for a Just, Fair and Law abiding Government! MERDEKA! MERDEKA! MERDEKA!

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

August 24, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Firstly, I am no ‘guru’ in this area but I take seriously all my relationships with people. I do read a bit on the topic of Relationships such as between spouses, friends, others and also with our own children. The exponential increase in the rate of divorces all over the world is firstly alarming and secondly, rather frightening. I strongly believe that the whole social structure of the human race depends on the success of the basic institution of marriage and family. A breakdown at this level will eventually lead to a breadown in our societies.

I came across Dov Heller, a licensed psychotherapist with a private practice in Los Angeles and the Director of the Relationship Institute. For more information about Dov Heller please read her Biography which is quite respectable.

I read one of her many articles and I think is a very good guide to finding your spouse! I reproduced here so that others can get some great tips on the issue of finding and keeping your life partner!

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

by Dov Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married, they’ll say: ‘We’re in love’; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound ‘not politically correct’, there’s a profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: ‘You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone’; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage:

(1) You can grow together, or

(2) you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.

To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust that I won’t get ‘punished’; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.

A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as ’someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ‘.

So ask about your significant other:

What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world:

(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and

(2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc..

How do they treat their parents and siblings?

Do they have gratitude and appreciation?

If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them?

You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we’re married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to ‘improve’; them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it: ‘You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse’. If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself trouble because you didn’t do your homework.

Another perspective…

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.

Pay attention…Which ones lift and which ones lean?

Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?

Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?

When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?

Which ones don’t appreciate you?

Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you…the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, ‘Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye’. Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to
warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really that important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and ‘a life’; you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:

1. TRUST

2. COMMUNICATION

3. INTIMACY

4. A SENSE OF HUMOR

5. SHARING TASKS

6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)

7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS

8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE

9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT

10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.

Women’s Heart Aches

August 22, 2008 | Leave a Comment

To me, words are ever so important in our lives. They are the means of communication among we humans. The written word is even more astonishing and let me share some light moments with you regarding Words in the English Language.

We have all read about the Battle of the Sexes and many problems in a woman’s life involved the other half! Here are some examples of the common problems women have and noticed how much men are involved in them.

1. MENtalillness or MENtal-breakdown.

2. MENstrual Cramps.

3. MENopause.

4. GUYnecologists.

The really serious problem here :-

5. HISterectomy.

In closing, have you ever noticed the following ?

Woman has man in it.

Mrs. has Mr in it.

Female has male in it.

She has he in it.

Madam has adam in it.

Perhaps now we can understand women’s problems better! Enjoy!

Guo Jingjing of China

August 21, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Here are some photos of Guo Jingjing and I am not surprised to find out that she do some modelling work too.

Another beautiful woman from that part of the world is non-other than Mongolian Model Altantuya Shaaribu who was involved in a high-profile murder case in Malaysia. It was such a tragic end for a beautiful woman.

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