The Walk of Life

Have you heard of the song "Only A Woman's Heart" by Eleanor McEvoy with Mary Black? Nice song really. Did you noticed that when two women talk, they connect with their hearts more so than men.

I often eavesdrop on how my daughters talked to my wife and how they connect as women. Their conversations were something therapeutic! Furthermore, I have overheard couples sharing about problems and what I discovered is that, most of the time, the woman does not need answers! They just needed a pair of listening ears, best if the man listened with his heart. If the man can offer comfort, understanding and consolation, the woman would feel very contented and happy for she felt that someone listened! Anyway, I guess women already know what they got to do so no need for the man to advise!Received this short Poem and would like to post it here for us to take a peep into a woman's heart! By the way at the end is also a short Poem from a man too! Just compare them!

The Woman's Poem

Before I lay me down to sleep,

I pray for a man, who's not a creep,

One who's handsome, smart and strong.

One who loves to listen long,

One who thinks before he speaks,

One who'll call, not wait for weeks.

I pray he's rich and self-employed,

And when I spend, won't be annoyed.

Pull out my chair and hold my hand.

Massage my feet and help me stand.

Oh send a king to make me queen.

A man who loves to cook and clean.

I pray this man will love no other.

And relish visits with my mother.

A MAN'S POEM:

I pray for a deaf-mute gymnast nymphomaniac with Big tits who owns a bar on a golf course, and loves to send me fishing and drinking. This doesn't rhyme and I don't give a shit.

I received this Commercial from a dear friend and in my opinion it is a very good short video clip titled "Funeral". Sad to say that this is a work by our late Yasmin Ahmad who passed away on Saturday 25th July.

The Commercial looks at relationships in a different light - that's what the latest commercial commissioned by Singapore's Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) aims to achieve.

The story shows a widowed wife talking about how she appreciated her late husband's imperfections and how the love they shared helped him to overcome those imperfections. The commercial will be aired on television soon.

I have got a real surprise yesterday! Reveived a shout from Trinity that she's in KL and got to leave for Hong Kong early Monday morning and as such she could not contact me to pick-up some Brownies from Bandung Indonesia!

Wow! what a timely gift and its on Father's Day! Surprises are the Spice of Life and what more from someone whom I have never met except on the blogosphere, bring me a gift all the way from Indonesia! Friends like this really warms my heart! It's the thought that counts! Thanks Trinity for your thoughtfulness and we'll catch-up this coming Saturday 27th June at Ikano 5pm! In case for those who do not know, it is some Bloggers Gathering and many from overseas will be there!

I really hope to meet so many local bloggers there and especially Marzie, Kess, Jean, LJ, Doris, Mohlee, Jessy, Stephanie, Fl Sam, My Thai Friend and Oh! too many to name here!

I have mentioned before, life is about building meaningful relationships that lasts forever! Of all the life experiences of a person, I believe meaningful relationships are the most precious and most memorable. I take this opportunity to say a big Thank-you to all my friends who have left such precious memories!

This year I received the most gifts! Glad to display them here to show my appreciation to friends, relatives and family! Thank-you for your kind thoughts!

Have you watched the Movie "Seven Deadly Sins" or "Seven" which was based on a crime thriller by Stephen King? Somehow the number 7 seems to be magical! We have 7 days in a week, the 7 deadly sins and of course the famous old Western, Magnificient Seven!

It seems that there are Seven Common Beliefs or perhaps Misconceptions that men have about women and if you guys want to have a meaningful, less stressful time with your spouse, bethrothed or girl friend, you better take stock of these Seven Must Know Facts!

Haha! I know you'll be interested to know! Irrespective of you are male or female. However to make it a balanced view, there are also seven responses from women to these misconceptions.

Seven Common Beliefs of Guys about Gals.

1. Women are emotional

Response : Women don't hide their feelings and they articulate what is on her mind. This is her way of being in-touch with her emotions and that is what make them sensitive, loving, caring and that is what men love. Embrace it.

2. Women are jealous and possessive.

Response : It is her strong sense of protectiveness over what she considers precious to her and that is you. Hey! be thankful for that!

3. A woman is hard to satisfy.

Response : Her complaints or criticisms are meant to improve things, especially relationship with her man. Learn to listen with your heart.

4. Women are control freaks.

Response : A woman's way of getting involved in her man's life is her way of expressing love, support and care and never meant to be an interference. Some Management skills are required here.

5. Women have strong intuition or sixth sense.

Response : Women are extremely capable of picking-up moods, attitudes and body language, facial expressions. They may believe a lie for peace sake or out of fear of knowing the truth. Thou shall not lie helps.

6. Strong confident women don't need any help.

Response : Even strong, confident women like her men to offer help in things that she are capable of doing by herself for in offering help by her men it shows her that you care. Ask her what you can do for her!

7. Women are costly in terms of effort, time and money.

Response : Serious relationships require effort, time and some money to buy her gifts which shows her you appreciate her. Heard of the Love Language? Check them out my older post given below.

As in most things there are two sides to the coin and perhaps you women folks can help your guys understand you better by straightening them out on these misconceptions Try to remember and work on one a day and in a week’s time, your relationship with your life companion should be hitting a HIGH! Have a fantastic week ahead.

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3. Fighting Fair


4. Finding And Keeping A Life Partner


5. Don't Cry At My Funeral

I presume that there comes a time in one’s life, we ponder on people around us and how our relationships changed. These people may be our immediate circle of friends, relatives or in certain cases the immediate family members!

Remembered a ‘philosophical friend’ said this about people in our lives :-

• Category A. - Those who matters.


• Category B. - Those who never did.


• Category C. - Those who no longer matter.


• Category D. - Those who always will.



Do you have friends in the above broad Categories? I’m sure most of us do! I ponder upon on my own list and asked myself the basis of my own Categorization! I noticed certain characteristics in our relationships that influence the process.

Those Who Matters :

These are those who have a genuine concern for you and call up every once in awhile to ask about you! Characteristically speaking, they keep in touch with an occasional email or postcard or if not a telephone call. They are the ones who invited you to join them for dinners or day trips, shopping trips, holiday trips and we shared memorable, wonderful, moments in the past. They are the ones who call you for advice or help and vice-versa.

Those who Never Did :-

No real contact apart from meeting in social gatherings such as in Church for Christmas etc.. Although we have known each other for quite some time, but there is very little to totally no bonding taking place apart from the terse hello and good-bye or how are you clichés! You hardly can recall any meaningful exchanges.

Those Who No Longer Matter :

It is rather difficult to find people in this Category. Of course in a divorce situation, your Ex belongs here! Apart from that, perhaps a broken relationship that sets us apart and there is no effort on either side to mend the relationship for whatever reasons.

To my astonishment, I find most of my work or business contacts fall into this Category! It looks like the feeling is rather mutual! We just slowly lost all contact and we don’t miss one another! No wonder they say in the world of business and money, relationships are paper-thin!

Those Who Always Will :

Family members come to mind instantly but I do acknowledge it’s not the case for everyone. Furthermore these are the ones who, although seldom call, seldom visit but they are forever part of our lives which is intricately intertwined. It seems the saying ‘blood is thicker than water’ is true.

Another group that come under this Category are good friends, relatives etc. Certain work-mates, business associates are considered under good friends to simplify matters. We do keep in touch, invite each other for the occasional get-together. One characteristic that stands out is the fact that we did share some memorable moments in the past! It could be a tragedy, a joint project or perhaps a common girlfriend!

However, over time I do notice that some of them get re-classified into Category C, either due to loss of contact, re-locate, migrated…... It can also be changes in social groups such as Cell Groups in a Church context and we no longer have time together as before.

In closing, I find this a rather amusing pondering and it tells a lot about our relationship with others. This is one life experience or life lessons all of us go through! If we do the arithmetic, and if we ended up having more of Category A and less of Category B and C; I think, in my humble opinion, our net-sum in life says that we do have some real friends and hopefully without any serious enemies!

Finally, my ‘philosophical friend’ have this to say as well :

Don't worry about people from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future. Be kinder than necessary, because everyone you meet in life, is fighting some kind of battle!