Many years ago there was a movie titled "Love Story" starring Ali Mcgraw and I forgot the male actor, some handsome fellow. It was the rave of town then perhaps in the early 70's The famous words that came out of the movie was "Love is Never having to say you're sorry". Lately I came across a blog on relationships, saying "When you are making love and if he closes his eyes, then he could be thinking of somebody else" Wow! If thats how my spouse think then I dare not even bat an eye-lid! Another blog said that "don't get angry or upset when he leaves you but get even". Taking revenge sort of thing. Here is a story of a man looking for a wife and he goes to the relevant Government Department, saying "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." The moral of the story is There is no perfect Spouse! There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that " A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech, name calling etc. Very often after sometime in a relationship, the couple forget mutual respect and courtesy which leads to a careless word here and there, hurting the feelings of the other person.

A short excerpt to illustrate this point. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A site-worker saw her and shouted, "Hi, Jane! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home Jane's millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." Jane replied, "You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise he will be the millionaire and not you."

Such exchanges although seemingly harmless, actually plants a seed of contention which slowly erode the relationship between the couple. In speech we must remember gentleness, kindness, truth and temperate. Another very important ingredient for a healthy relationships is 'TRUST'. When trust is broken, very often it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion then anger, which builds up enmity and eventually separation. Heard this story before? A telephone operator said that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB". In closing, I would just like to post some verses from the Bible on Love. Read it and noticed the words used to express Love rather than what Hollywood is telling our kids and us! Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. Love Never Fails! "Well Good life starts ONLY when you stop looking for a Better One" My own version is Love are not for sissies!

I came across this term Walls of our hearts back in the early 80's when I met this person by the name of Bruce Thompson who was visiting my country and was teaching at the Tung Ling Bible School in Singapore. Just sitting around him and listening to his sharing on this topic was very enlightening, refreshing as well as inspiring. What brought this up was a "coffee night out" with the boys and they commented that how I dare to shared so much of my personal experiences and family on the blog! They would feel uncomfortable to do such things. Then today, I met a visitor to my blog and I discovered she even shared more openly about her own struggles and difficulties. Visit awannabe and read about her stories, very interesting as well as engaging writing. It keeps you reading on for more. Back to Walls of our hearts, what I learned from Bruce was that as one goes through life meeting all sorts of rejections from family, friends, society and the work place; one tends to build-up a wall of defense, with the apparently good self-protection mechanism to shield oneself from further hurts. This wall that we build up is also the medium that cuts us off the love that we can receive from people! Until we come to a place where we are willing to let down this wall, then we will also alienate ourselves and the spiral goes on and on to the extent that we become very confused, insecure and fearful. Subsequently our relationship with people suffers and manifestations of control, manipulative personalities surfaced. This can start from a very young age. We need to have someone who we feel really safe, someone we can trust, to bare our hearts and not get a repulsive look, someone who can understand and do not condemn us for who we truly are. Is there such a person in our lives that fits the bill? Naturally our parents are suppose to be the ones but what if our parents themselves are wounded, hurting people? Even to our spouse we dare not reveal some of our darkest secrets! To me, that person is Jesus Christ where I can bare my heart to Him and I know He not only understands but also forgives me for all the evil and wrongs that I had committed or omitted. He pulls down that wall and once my secrets are in the Light I am free and my relationships with others are also free, for now I am no longer under condemnation, for God has judged me, admittedly guilty but thankfully forgiven.

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