The Walk of Life

One very often asked question from a stroke survivor is "Will I ever recover 100% and when?". Rock used to asked herself and me this question. As a husband-caregiver, I find that question hard to answer! I was advised that I must not give false hopes but at the same time must have a positive attitude! I guess if you are an employed caregiver, then it is easier to state cold hard facts. Stroke Survivors have a great need for someone to give them answers to daily practical living questions like:-

• Why am I so sad and emotional ?


• When will I feel not a burden to the family ?


• Will I get over the anger and grief that I feel ?


• What about the clumsiness; emptiness, the forgetfulness ?

As a caregiver, I learned the importance of being able to listen to all these heart wrenching questions! Also learned ways to say things and things never to say! One good example is the statement "I know you will get better", simply because you will never know that for sure! What happens if the stroke survivor does not get any better? He or she will feel betrayed! It is better to be honest but say it in a kind way than to give false hope, even if you mean not to lay upon his or her frayed emotions!

So fellow caregivers, well meaning family members, do give some time to those who are handicapped either due to stroke or other ailments. Your visits and presence will assure them that you care!